Communication. Best with twin sisters and cream puffs. Image courtesy of iStockphoto/Thinkstock.

Reader, pardon me while I wax poetic for a moment.

It’s good being a boy.  It means getting riled up over females.  It means we are excused from having perfect manners.  But it especially means that we have our own way of communicating that can be as effective as it is confusing to the opposite sex.

They say that women are better communicators than men.  I say that we are just different.  Women can really dig deep into their psyches and say what they are feeling,… sometimes.  Men do the same, we just aren’t that deep.


My buddy’s wife was trying to arrange a game of Bunco (some strange feminine rite of passage) and was offended when some invitees were responding with uncertainty about attending.  But, she couldn’t verbalize that she was hurt because she didn’t want them to know that she was hurt, nor did she want to say anything that would hurt their feelings.  Women are more emotional than men.  It’s not a bad thing, it’s just true.  Men are more logical.

I can’t tell you how many times I’ve ditched a boy’s night out to try to hook it up with some hot little mama.  We could have planned it for weeks, bought tickets, or whatever, but my boy’s recognize that trying to get a little tail supercedes the boy’s.

Boys razz each other all the time.  When was the last time you heard a girl tell her friend she had put on weight?  Guys do it all the time.  We might say it when it hasn’t even happened!  We can tell our friends when a chick is not good for you, but you should stick around if the benefits outweigh the drama.  If you made a dumb move, you probably let us know because it makes a good story, and we can all relate because we’ve all done dumb things.

Besides celebrating our masculinity, I want to remind you boys not to act like girls.  We’re not overly sensitive, so don’t be.  We’re not possessive, or insecure about our friends, and we celebrate when one of our friends wins.

So be good to your girls, but be true to being a boy.


Richard has been in the Essential Style for Men mix since its inception in 2009. When he isn’t busy serving as the ESM’s Director of Fashion & Style, you may find him on the beach playing volleyball, or working hard in Thailand shooting with a beautiful Brazilian supermodel.