If you keep it discreet, you may get to go another round. Image courtesy of iStockphoto/Thinkstock.

Discretion is defined as the ability to have good judgment in conduct, especially in speech.  It is also defined as being capable of preserving prudent silence. 

It’s a difficult thing to master, especially at a younger age.  Now, with the advent of Facebook, Twitter and other social media, it seems that being discreet about anything is becoming more and more of a challenge.  It is very easy to accidentally give up confidential information to a wide audience in an instant.

For me, discretion is one of the biggest lessons that a man needs to learn in his lifetime.  The skill of keeping something to yourself is one that will always pay dividends in the long run (especially if you want to be a super spy like James Bond).

I have seen the lack of discretion be hurtful in many ways.  For example, one’s inability to keep a secret about a friend’s past may forever damage your friendship.  Discretion in your career may also  limit your ability for professional growth.

The ability to be discreet takes a lot of discipline.  From small nuggets of information to top secret formulas, a person’s trust can be gained and kept through a strict regimen of “shut your trap and keep it to yourself”.

The benefits?  Ask any of your friends who knows how to keep it a secret.  They’ve probably done things you never would have dreamed of doing – like make out with all the hot girls on your floor.

So the next time you want to tell the entire world you hooked up with that famous porn star, think twice.  Your discretion may be the key to a repeat performance.


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